WARNING:
Flipping long post ahead :)
This blog is really the only kind of journal I keep,
so this post is more for me than any of you!
I've been reminded this month how unfair it is of me to compare my littles progress to each other. James is 22 months and I've been quite concerned about his lack of speaking, based only on the fact that Lily spoke so early and so well. I will acknowledge that James has been better at motor skills (opens doors, climbs bookshelves and does other physical activities better than Lily does even now), but I was still worried about his speech. He has always sounded just a bit "deaf" to me. You know how someone who has been deaf their whole life speaks with a certain roundness? James had that same quality in his speaking, even though I know he hears and understands us.
Fast forward to a few weeks ago. After filling out loads of paperwork, countless emails, and phonecalls to establish a need for a specialist to come test James, we had our home visit. I was curious to see how they could diagnose speech problems in a (shy) 21 month old little boy. Three specialists showed up, and as one interacted with James, the other two took notes. Then they'd switch positions so all three had the chance to work one-on-one with him. It was a LONG visit. My first eye-opener came just minutes after they had arrived: Lily was positive these new friends were here for her to entertain and would not get out of their faces. They were very polite about redirecting their attention back to James, and I spent most of the 90 minutes distracting her (and mostly consoling her because she was being ignored). What I saw was how loud and pushy Lily is when it comes to James - she rarely lets him answer questions directed to him, and is constantly speaking "for" him (and quite often incorrectly, as we soon saw).
Now, James is quite a shy little guy. He prefers to sit in my lap during the library's story time, rather than run around with the other kids. I was expecting that shyness to keep him from playing with the specialists and was I ever proven wrong! As soon as he saw that Lily was being corralled, and these guests were for HIM (!), he was such a little ham! He said words I have NEVER heard him say before: after building with legos, he was asked "What is that?" (and after Lily spoke for him and said "a monster"), he said "Boat". WHAT?! He said three-word-sentences (while he has only ever put two words together for us) like "Look, a monster" (at the lego tower Lily was building). Yes, he slurred a little, and said many things that aren't words, but after the evaluation was over, I was assured that while James may be several month behind in his verbal skills, he is also several months advanced in his motor-skills, and that leads the specialists to believe that he's focused all of his energy on motor-skills and will catch up on his verbal skills eventually.
He loves "rock-climbing" and is really good at it! |
Same exact thing with Chris! He is much less verbal than Aaron and Brian were at his age and I too had him evaluated with the same conclusion reached. He is very physically coordinated and focus his attention on that and since both speech and physical stuff are cognitive skills he didn't qualify for speech services. He is making progress and I just have to try not to compare him to the older 2.
ReplyDeleteGood luck! And call me so we can chat about it!